Wordless Wednesday: My Time

I know what I’m looking for out of a man and its someone that will be there full-time. Maybe Divorced Dad and I didn’t work because his full time commitment was to his children.  But us as women need to stop settling for the part-time stuff. If he really wants to be with you he will make time for you.

I haven’t spoken to Divorced Dad since December 30th. We exchanged a few texts on New Year’s Eve, but then I stopped and waited. I used to wake up with texts from him and now its been over a week since he’s even contacted me. Pretty sure he’s not that busy, but that just let me know how much I had been on his mind lately. While it hurts a little, I mean it had been six months and I was falling for him, I guess I’m happy it didn’t go on too much longer.

Singing Saturday: On To the Next One

I thought I was falling for Divorced Dad, and I was going hard. But I've already had a few good dates and meet some new guys, and I realized he's nothing to get upset about. There's more out there, and in the words of Jay-Z, On To the Next One.

Is it the End?

I really liked Divorced Dad. Going out with him was totally awesome, but I think we may have run our course. He has had his kids a lot more recently, but even that doesn't excuse our lack of time together. I haven't seen this guy since December 5. Just hit the four week mark and I'm wondering what I'm doing.

I've had long distance relationships, I mean Texas to Detroit type of distances, and I can't recall going a month without seeing the person. I think what irks me even more about this is that he only lives nine miles away from me. I travel almost 30 miles one way to get to work. Its like having someone so close, but so far at the same time.

Leo 2013 Dating Horoscope

I find horoscopes very interesting. I don't live by them, but I always find the similarities to whats going on in my life to be fascinating. Here's a bit about being a Leo, and most of this does apply to me: Leo people brim with a lot of confidence. Courage, ambition, passion and loyalty are some of the virtues that define any Leo. In matters of love, Leo likes to take an upper hand and keep in control their emotions. The self-regulating and domineering streak in them often makes them a possessive partner. 

My "Dating under the stars" horoscope from Match.com says:

The deeper side of life beckons in 2013. Early in the year you toy with your love interests, basking in their attention and semi-earnest bids for your heart. As the year progresses, however, Saturn will move more insistently into Scorpio and Jupiter will get cozied up in Cancer, making your appetite for variety fade. The desire to find The One will be a new sensation for you — and you’ll find it to be a journey that you really enjoy, you lucky Leo! There’s a real possibility for big love to come into your life this year — the only question is: Are you ready?

Cosmo says:

"Passion will skyrocket for you midyear. That means lots of wild sex and feeling so incredibly in love with someone."

It also says that for the month of January that I need to enact a major change to make my love life smoother. It's also time to have a serious chat about where things are going. Hmmm. 

GaneshaSpeaks.com says

These are interesting times for the Leo singles and few trusted friendships may blossom and a friendship may enter into a totally different dimension of love. This relationship, if forged, will be a source of great strength and support to you. It may also happen that someone special may be totally bowled over by you. This sounds good. However, that someone special may also need you so much that he or she may refuse to see their life beyond you. In other words, they may become quite dependent on you. Hence you should know where to draw the line.

As a Leo, I'm often wooed easily by flattery, so I found this piece to be very interesting: Don’t get carried away by infatuations and only allow true love to enter your heart. Only give importance to such kind of relationships that have the potential to grow and can be enhanced further. So if I'm reading all of these horoscopes right, and believe me I read more than I actually posted, I may be falling in love this year.  There may be some rough times before I meet that special someone, but this may be the year for Mr. Right. What do you guys think?

Wordless Wednesday 2013

No matter what happens this year, I'm going to look at everything as a new experience to learn from. Whether I find the one or stay single and have fun with all the wrong ones.

What's your love goals for 2013?

Blogged Up Married Guy

Ha, I must’ve been talking about Married Guy too much, because who booty called me Friday night at 1a.m.? Married Guy of course. He first sent a text that I ignored. He then called me 10 minutes later, and I let him know that I was seeing someone and wasn’t really interested sleeping with him. We hung up, but I had never been happier that I met Divorced Dad (just going to start calling him “D”) until then. I realized if I hadn’t met him, I probably would’ve hooked up with MG again.

I thought about how great the sex with MG used to be, but I don’t want to mess things up with D, just because of some sex. Plus what I have with D is so much different. He appreciates and praises me, he makes me feel special and loved and I’m so happy when I’m around him, that I don’t even want to ruin that. Anyways, I hadn’t been with MG since September of 2010, but it wasn’t for a lack of trying.

Cycle of Leaving a Cheater

What clues do you ignore when
you think your man is cheating?

I’ve gotten pretty personal, and told you about my relationship with Married Guy. And while some people may understand and may have even been in a similar relationship, some will most likely be very upset with me. Wondering how could I stay with this man once I found out he was married. What was I doing to his wife and family. Though he was the one cheating, I was the one allowing myself to be the other woman.

But have you ever considered why SHE stayed? She was actually the one in the relationship making the money and holding down the household. He actually needed her more financially than she did. However, she stayed. She most likely knew what was going on. I mean seriously, when your husband doesn’t come home at night and isn’t spending holidays with you, where do you think he’s at?

I realized that there is a cycle to leaving a cheater for many women. Whether you are the one getting cheated on or you’re the other woman, here is the cycle that many of go through when trying to leave a cheating man...