Cycle of Leaving a Cheater

What clues do you ignore when
you think your man is cheating?

I’ve gotten pretty personal, and told you about my relationship with Married Guy. And while some people may understand and may have even been in a similar relationship, some will most likely be very upset with me. Wondering how could I stay with this man once I found out he was married. What was I doing to his wife and family. Though he was the one cheating, I was the one allowing myself to be the other woman.

But have you ever considered why SHE stayed? She was actually the one in the relationship making the money and holding down the household. He actually needed her more financially than she did. However, she stayed. She most likely knew what was going on. I mean seriously, when your husband doesn’t come home at night and isn’t spending holidays with you, where do you think he’s at?

I realized that there is a cycle to leaving a cheater for many women. Whether you are the one getting cheated on or you’re the other woman, here is the cycle that many of go through when trying to leave a cheating man...

1. You find out the truth
2. Discuss what’s going on (this only applies to the mature people)
3. Give him choice (but not really having any repercussions)
4. He cheats again
5. You find out, again
6. He apologizes and makes excuses, again
7. You sleep with him
8. You take him back
9. Repeat steps 2-8 multiple times, until...
10. A light comes on
11. you realize you deserve more
12. You realize you can do it alone or are better off by yourself
13. you realize you will meet someone else
14. You realized not everyone cheats
15. You decide you deserve someone who doesn’t cheat
16. You stop accepting his apologies
17. You stop going back (and sleeping with him)
18. Finally, you move on, because nothing replaces old like new
19. You find someone new
20. You wonder why you spent so much time with his cheating ass