Married Guy, Finding Out

So me and married guy had been dating for about seven months. Things were good. We went and had fun. He spent the night at my house and I spent the night at his a few times. We spoke on the phone, both house and cell, at all times of the night. I was really falling in love with this guy. He was sweet and attentive. We had a lot in common, despite the 14 year age difference. And we had a lot of fun when we went out. Plus the sex was awesome. I was young, so of course I was being introduced to things I had never done before.

I knew that dating a married man was wrong,
but what happens when you think you're in love?

A few months after we began dating, I quit my job and was looking for another one, but I still hadn't finished college, so my experience was limited to some time I spent as an office assistant then sales person. Married guy was a recruiter, and soon began helping me with my resume and lining up job interviews for me. After a really great interview with an auto supplier, I decided to meet him at his office for lunch.



I was early and he hadn't made it back yet, so another girl in the office escorted me to his office. She then proceeded to say, "XXX is such a great guy. He's like my work husband. Although he's already married and his wife is really nice, we just get along so well." REALLY! WTF? Who says this to someone you just met?

She probably knew we were sleeping together or that we had a much more serious relationship besides just being my headhunter. But as I look back and I realize that these were some of the first words out of her mouth, I wonder if she too was sleeping with him (he's a male slut and I found out that the was sleeping with lots of people). I told her that I needed to get to my next appointment and he could call me later.

I then called my best friend, Superman (this is his actual nickname). I spoke to him and cried. I was upset with him because they actually lived on the same street and ran in the same motorcycle group, but he never told me. His comment was, "I told you not to take him seriously or fall for him and to just have fun. I'm sorry this happened, but you deserve better."

MG called Superman later, pretty sure he knew that I would call him. MG said that the secretary could tell by the look on my face that I was upset when she mentioned he was married, and told him about our exchange. He admitted to Supe about being scared to call me.

That night I called a guy I was going school with, I'll just call him college bud or CB. I enjoyed talking to him because he was my age. We had also helped each other through the break ups of our first loves. When I was speaking to him about the situation, I went into more detail about Married Guy. I had spoken to CB about him in the past, but kept things vague. When I started giving him personal details, CB said I know Married Guy, he's married to my cousin! (Detroit is really two degrees of separation, not six)

Well I really had my confirmation now. So when Married Guy finally called two days you can imagine how upset I was. But I had already fallen in love with this guy. Married Guy proceeded to tell me how bad is marriage was, and the ball was in my court if I wanted to continue something with him. But he would not be leaving his wife until his kids were grown. He just "couldn't do that to them."

Well, I drunk the Kool-Aid, believed him, believed I was in love and that he had more feelings for me than he did for his wife, and decided to continue seeing him.

I'm writing this Married Guy series so that women can learn from the mistakes that I made. Not too often do women actually admit to the relationships that they have with someone that's married, but believe me there are many women out here that do it. Have you?