Wordless Wednesday: My Time

I know what I’m looking for out of a man and its someone that will be there full-time. Maybe Divorced Dad and I didn’t work because his full time commitment was to his children.  But us as women need to stop settling for the part-time stuff. If he really wants to be with you he will make time for you.

I haven’t spoken to Divorced Dad since December 30th. We exchanged a few texts on New Year’s Eve, but then I stopped and waited. I used to wake up with texts from him and now its been over a week since he’s even contacted me. Pretty sure he’s not that busy, but that just let me know how much I had been on his mind lately. While it hurts a little, I mean it had been six months and I was falling for him, I guess I’m happy it didn’t go on too much longer.

Is it the End?

I really liked Divorced Dad. Going out with him was totally awesome, but I think we may have run our course. He has had his kids a lot more recently, but even that doesn't excuse our lack of time together. I haven't seen this guy since December 5. Just hit the four week mark and I'm wondering what I'm doing.

I've had long distance relationships, I mean Texas to Detroit type of distances, and I can't recall going a month without seeing the person. I think what irks me even more about this is that he only lives nine miles away from me. I travel almost 30 miles one way to get to work. Its like having someone so close, but so far at the same time.

Cycle of Leaving a Cheater

What clues do you ignore when
you think your man is cheating?

I’ve gotten pretty personal, and told you about my relationship with Married Guy. And while some people may understand and may have even been in a similar relationship, some will most likely be very upset with me. Wondering how could I stay with this man once I found out he was married. What was I doing to his wife and family. Though he was the one cheating, I was the one allowing myself to be the other woman.

But have you ever considered why SHE stayed? She was actually the one in the relationship making the money and holding down the household. He actually needed her more financially than she did. However, she stayed. She most likely knew what was going on. I mean seriously, when your husband doesn’t come home at night and isn’t spending holidays with you, where do you think he’s at?

I realized that there is a cycle to leaving a cheater for many women. Whether you are the one getting cheated on or you’re the other woman, here is the cycle that many of go through when trying to leave a cheating man...

Married Guy, Year Two

I will continue on with my story about Married Guy. He was in my life for a very long time, and I should’ve let him go much earlier. But I, like probably many other women, got sucked deeper and deeper into the relationship.

OMG I'm Dating Someone

A little while ago I spoke about meeting a guy when I least expected it. It was a pleasant surprise, and when I wrote that post I had only known the guy for a week or so. We had crazy physical attraction to each other. But honestly when we met, I expected it to be a one night kind of thing. After not being physical with a guy in almost eight months, I had actually went back and called Married Guy.

Lucky for me, Married Guy was so busy sleeping with everyone else, that he hadn't quite made it around to see me. If I had hooked up with married guy, I probably wouldn't have kept my options open for another person.There was something about Married Guy that would satisfy me for the time being. That was until I met DW.

Married Guy, Finding Out

So me and married guy had been dating for about seven months. Things were good. We went and had fun. He spent the night at my house and I spent the night at his a few times. We spoke on the phone, both house and cell, at all times of the night. I was really falling in love with this guy. He was sweet and attentive. We had a lot in common, despite the 14 year age difference. And we had a lot of fun when we went out. Plus the sex was awesome. I was young, so of course I was being introduced to things I had never done before.

I knew that dating a married man was wrong,
but what happens when you think you're in love?

A few months after we began dating, I quit my job and was looking for another one, but I still hadn't finished college, so my experience was limited to some time I spent as an office assistant then sales person. Married guy was a recruiter, and soon began helping me with my resume and lining up job interviews for me. After a really great interview with an auto supplier, I decided to meet him at his office for lunch.

Laws of Attraction

Everyone one has a type that they find attractive. Sometimes that type changes over time or you go phases. For awhile, most of the guys I dated were tall, dark skinned, muscular with a shaved head. There was usually a motorcycle involved too, but that's another story for another post.

As of lately, I really don't know what my type of guy is. I'm not gravitating towards one particular look or type of guy. I've even started dating more white, hispanic and middle eastern guys. I've spent years dating only black men. Luckily black men come in all different shades so you could end up with one as dark and fine as Idris Elba or the other side spectrum like Jesse Williams. But that is a beauty of black men, there are so many different shades and types.

So what if you aren't physically attracted to someone right away? I've said before that someone has grown on me, but that usually meant their personality or some other quirk they have. As I have gotten older I realize that I don't want someone's personality to grow on me. I want someone that I click with right away.

Wordless Wednesday: It's a Woman's Game Now

I'm going to play like a guy for a while, so... Don't hate the player, hate the game.

I'm tired of being that girl that's only dating one guy. I'm dating for fun now and making sure my dance card is full.

My First Online Date

I’ve done the online dating thing before. In fact, years ago before it was very popular. I found it was a great way to weed out some of the guys. A way to get to know someone before you actually went out (cause blind dates suck!). I actually found a really nice guy and we dated for a few years.

Wordless Wednesday: Online Dating

I'm going to start a new thing, every Wednesday I'll post a picture and with a sentence or two sentence comment. Let me know what you think on the subject, I'd love to hear from you.

Where do you find love?

If you've seen the new online dating commercials, they state that one in five relationships start online. What's your opinion on meeting someone online and what's been your experiences?

I'll follow this up with a post that I wrote last year about online dating.

Single Confidence or Confidently Single

I happened by this blog post today and author Clare wonders if confidence is a curse for women. I have often wondered that myself. Even a few good male friends of mine have often said that my confidence scares some guys away. All I ever wonder is why?

My confidence brings a lot to the table. I'm not a cocky person, but I have enough confidence in myself that I'm not running around checking a guys phone or need to be under him all the time. I know what I want, I communicate clearly and don't have time for a bunch of bull shit.