Wordless Wednesday: My Time

I know what I’m looking for out of a man and its someone that will be there full-time. Maybe Divorced Dad and I didn’t work because his full time commitment was to his children.  But us as women need to stop settling for the part-time stuff. If he really wants to be with you he will make time for you.

I haven’t spoken to Divorced Dad since December 30th. We exchanged a few texts on New Year’s Eve, but then I stopped and waited. I used to wake up with texts from him and now its been over a week since he’s even contacted me. Pretty sure he’s not that busy, but that just let me know how much I had been on his mind lately. While it hurts a little, I mean it had been six months and I was falling for him, I guess I’m happy it didn’t go on too much longer.

Is it the End?

I really liked Divorced Dad. Going out with him was totally awesome, but I think we may have run our course. He has had his kids a lot more recently, but even that doesn't excuse our lack of time together. I haven't seen this guy since December 5. Just hit the four week mark and I'm wondering what I'm doing.

I've had long distance relationships, I mean Texas to Detroit type of distances, and I can't recall going a month without seeing the person. I think what irks me even more about this is that he only lives nine miles away from me. I travel almost 30 miles one way to get to work. Its like having someone so close, but so far at the same time.

Dating a Divorced Dad

It's been four months since DW and I met and started going out. Things seem to have moved pretty quickly, much to my surprise. The night we met we talked about kids, I really don't know how it came up, but I can't lie- I was pretty tanked that night. I told him that I didn't have kids and didn't really like them. Of course as I'm running my big fat mouth, I didn't know that the had three kids.

OMG I'm Dating Someone

A little while ago I spoke about meeting a guy when I least expected it. It was a pleasant surprise, and when I wrote that post I had only known the guy for a week or so. We had crazy physical attraction to each other. But honestly when we met, I expected it to be a one night kind of thing. After not being physical with a guy in almost eight months, I had actually went back and called Married Guy.

Lucky for me, Married Guy was so busy sleeping with everyone else, that he hadn't quite made it around to see me. If I had hooked up with married guy, I probably wouldn't have kept my options open for another person.There was something about Married Guy that would satisfy me for the time being. That was until I met DW.

Is Age Just a Number?

I recently turned 32 and I was fine with it, for about a week. Then I realized, that I am not where I intended my life being. Thought I would be married, or at least have some prospects, and soon be having kids. My career is finally on the correct path, and I have a beautiful home, but my personal life has been in shambles.

Most of the men my age are married, or getting their first divorce and very bitter. I don't know when I was supposed to go out and meet a guy. I spent years working day jobs and going to college at night, so my college was much different than most. There were no guys to meet there. And the ones that I did meet have moved out of state or are married.

When Least Expected

I've always heard that saying, it will come when you least expect it. I've been trying to believe that for a few years now. If I stop looking for a relationship, one will eventually come to me. So I stopped looking, or did I? Have I always really gone to events wondering how many single guys were there or who the cute guy at the bar may have come with. Perhaps I've spent time when I was out complaining to friends that there are no single guys here and its becoming frustrating. 

Laws of Attraction

Everyone one has a type that they find attractive. Sometimes that type changes over time or you go phases. For awhile, most of the guys I dated were tall, dark skinned, muscular with a shaved head. There was usually a motorcycle involved too, but that's another story for another post.

As of lately, I really don't know what my type of guy is. I'm not gravitating towards one particular look or type of guy. I've even started dating more white, hispanic and middle eastern guys. I've spent years dating only black men. Luckily black men come in all different shades so you could end up with one as dark and fine as Idris Elba or the other side spectrum like Jesse Williams. But that is a beauty of black men, there are so many different shades and types.

So what if you aren't physically attracted to someone right away? I've said before that someone has grown on me, but that usually meant their personality or some other quirk they have. As I have gotten older I realize that I don't want someone's personality to grow on me. I want someone that I click with right away.

Facebook Confirmation

If you chose to put your information out on the web for anyone to see, I don’t think what I’m doing is stalking. I consider it more to be confirming facts. People can’t tell a whole lot of lies on facebook because they will quickly get called out. A lot of people are also very open, and even if you aren’t, someone on your friend list is bound to be.

First off, Facebook privacy is very ready to navigate. You can hide certain posts or pictures from friends. You can also change how your wall is viewed. If it’s not a friend, shut the wall down. Also hide your friends posts from outside people if you make public status updates. Its your friends that are most likely to give hints up on YOUR life.

Old College Try

Have you ever looked back in your dating life and wondered why you and a person didn’t work out? You are drawing blanks trying to remember what happened...

During college, I dated this guy Mike. We only went out a few times, but of course ended up having sex. Me, not being completely over my ex, of course sabotaged what ever relationship we could have had. Of course he remembers the exchange differently than I do. I guess I ended up cussing him out (this happens frequently, so I don’t remember, lol).

We remained friends through everything. And when we graduated, he came to my graduation party where we partied throughout the night. The guy that I was dating was there, but I was having more fun with Mike. He was always cute, and had the deepest dimples when he smiled.

Warning, this post is long!

Turn Offs: Shy Guy

So I've talked a lot about the guy from the bar. I thought of giving him an alias, but this is probably the last time I will talk about him, so he's not worth it now, lol. If you've seen the other posts "Who's On First" and "Who's on First Update", you can learn what was going on with this cutie I saw at the bar a couple months ago.

Well, I gave him my card and didn't ask for his contact information. It took a while for him to contact me (you would know this if you read Who's on First Update, lol). So here's the run down of what happened when he finally contacted me.

Cruising Alone

I recently took a cruise vacation. The cruise is an awesome vacation. The price is reasonable, and it includes food and entertainment. The only thing it doesn't include is men. There are like NO single men on a cruise. Women go in groups of other women or they come as a couple. The only single men are those that may have joined some married friends, guys with their families or horn dogs that know there are nothing but women on a cruise.

You are stuck on this boat, in the middle of the ocean, with nothing but sunshine and liquor, but if you go alone you will end up hugging your pillow to sleep every night. Or worse, my recent experience, hearing the couple next door have sex.

Singing Saturday: Let's Talk About Sex

I really don't think we talk about sex enough. Some people are absolutely prudish when it comes to the subject, and why are women always looked at funny when we bring up the subject? Well I'm definitely not afraid to talk about sex :)

Barely Satisfied

I really enjoyed this guy’s company (*Phil). We have nice talks and he didn’t seem to be in a rush to do anything. Maybe I rushed him. I started feeling like a teenager again and we would have these hour long make-out sessions. We’d make out in the car and steam the windows. And not having sex in over eight months really made me want him even more, especially after all the teenage fooling around.

Happy in Celibacy

Nine months. That is my new record for not having sex. I was dating and thought if I worked on the relationship instead of having sex that I would probably find a better relationship. However, it kinda backfired on me. All I could think about was sex. While I talked to a guy I was imagining him in bed. When I met a guy I was wondering how long it should take before we got in the bed.

Singing Saturday: Minute Man

I hate minute men. Question is, how do you deal with it? Just don't mess with them any longer or try to make it work.

Filling My Calendar

My calendar fills up quickly

Why do guys think that you are sitting by the phone waiting for them to ask you out? That you will have nothing to do and be ready at the drop of a dime to go out when they want you to?

I absolutely hate when a guy calls me on a Friday and expects that I'll be free and ready to go out that night. Why is there no consideration for my schedule? Even if my plan is just to sit at home that night, its still a plan that I know that I'm doing. Why should I get out of my comfy clothes, put on some make up and go out with someone that doesn't even give me more than a couple hours notice.

Who's on First Update

Last month I blogged about a guy at the bar and we both seemed to be checking each other out. You don't remember that post? Well read "Who's on First" before reading this any further. OK, now that you are caught up, let me tell you what's happened next.

Turn Offs: Tipping

So the guy at the bar that I have been thinking was really cute for a while (see Who's on First) just did something that has cemented his fate in never getting a date. He only tipped the waitstaff $1. That's right One Dollar. Seriously?

Wordless Wednesday: It's a Woman's Game Now

I'm going to play like a guy for a while, so... Don't hate the player, hate the game.

I'm tired of being that girl that's only dating one guy. I'm dating for fun now and making sure my dance card is full.

Singing Saturday: If I Were a Boy

What would you do if you were a boy? What advantages do they have over women?

I hate that women are looked down upon if we date or sleep with multiple people. They can talk about their sex lives without having a second thought, but women are always considering how it will make them look.