Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Who's on First?

I've been checking this guy out for a few weeks, maybe a month now. He's been coming in my regular spot every Friday. Sometimes I see him on Saturday's or another day throughout the week. He's always alone and doesn't really start up any conversations with other people. And I've been waiting patiently for him to make this first move.


He's usually in a seat across the bar, so I've had a pretty good view for a few weeks. I've also been noticing him checking me out. But he doesn't say anything. I'm a bit of a social butterfly at my regular spot. It's full of people I know so I feel very comfortable. One of my friends says that this may be intimidating to guys, especially since most if the people I hand with at the  bar are men.

Weeks have gone by with us just sharing the occasional glance. He looks like the type of I want to date. Preppy, stylish, reserved, classic, well spoken. Nonetheless, I don't want to approach him. I like a guy that comes on to me. Is that old fashioned? I've asked guys out, but I have so much more attraction to him if he makes the first move.

There was an opportunity for him to say something to me that night. I spent part of it right behind him and at some point I was right next to him when I was getting my drink from the bartender. He didn't say anything, so I just walked away. The next day, he was at the bar again. I was so busy talking to a friend about an upcoming project that I didn't even notice he was there until right before he left.

I'm totally expecting to see him this weekend, but I don't know what to do. Should I just introduce myself to him and see where this goes or should I wait for him to make the first move? And can someone tell me why guys are so reluctant to make the first move? 

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