Blogged Up Married Guy

Ha, I must’ve been talking about Married Guy too much, because who booty called me Friday night at 1a.m.? Married Guy of course. He first sent a text that I ignored. He then called me 10 minutes later, and I let him know that I was seeing someone and wasn’t really interested sleeping with him. We hung up, but I had never been happier that I met Divorced Dad (just going to start calling him “D”) until then. I realized if I hadn’t met him, I probably would’ve hooked up with MG again.

I thought about how great the sex with MG used to be, but I don’t want to mess things up with D, just because of some sex. Plus what I have with D is so much different. He appreciates and praises me, he makes me feel special and loved and I’m so happy when I’m around him, that I don’t even want to ruin that. Anyways, I hadn’t been with MG since September of 2010, but it wasn’t for a lack of trying.

Cycle of Leaving a Cheater

What clues do you ignore when
you think your man is cheating?

I’ve gotten pretty personal, and told you about my relationship with Married Guy. And while some people may understand and may have even been in a similar relationship, some will most likely be very upset with me. Wondering how could I stay with this man once I found out he was married. What was I doing to his wife and family. Though he was the one cheating, I was the one allowing myself to be the other woman.

But have you ever considered why SHE stayed? She was actually the one in the relationship making the money and holding down the household. He actually needed her more financially than she did. However, she stayed. She most likely knew what was going on. I mean seriously, when your husband doesn’t come home at night and isn’t spending holidays with you, where do you think he’s at?

I realized that there is a cycle to leaving a cheater for many women. Whether you are the one getting cheated on or you’re the other woman, here is the cycle that many of go through when trying to leave a cheating man...

Married Guy, Year Two

I will continue on with my story about Married Guy. He was in my life for a very long time, and I should’ve let him go much earlier. But I, like probably many other women, got sucked deeper and deeper into the relationship.

Kids are Cramping My Style

So I really like Divorced Dad. It’s been four months and really feels that he knows me better than some of my best friends. He’s an absolute sweetheart and I love spending time with him. Only problem is, I rarely get to spend time with him.

He loves his kids, and I adore that. But the kids are his first priority, and I was hoping to meet a guy where I would be his number one. Technically, I’m like number four or five, because I think the job even comes before me. With this joint physical custody, he literally has the kids four nights a week. Sometimes more, since the mom will take the kids back when he’s at work, she doesn’t count those hours towards his time.

Dating a Divorced Dad

It's been four months since DW and I met and started going out. Things seem to have moved pretty quickly, much to my surprise. The night we met we talked about kids, I really don't know how it came up, but I can't lie- I was pretty tanked that night. I told him that I didn't have kids and didn't really like them. Of course as I'm running my big fat mouth, I didn't know that the had three kids.

OMG I'm Dating Someone

A little while ago I spoke about meeting a guy when I least expected it. It was a pleasant surprise, and when I wrote that post I had only known the guy for a week or so. We had crazy physical attraction to each other. But honestly when we met, I expected it to be a one night kind of thing. After not being physical with a guy in almost eight months, I had actually went back and called Married Guy.

Lucky for me, Married Guy was so busy sleeping with everyone else, that he hadn't quite made it around to see me. If I had hooked up with married guy, I probably wouldn't have kept my options open for another person.There was something about Married Guy that would satisfy me for the time being. That was until I met DW.

Manscaping

I am a firm believer that women should shave their underarms, legs and bikini area. But I also believe that men are responsible for a little manscaping themselves. That doesn't mean just shaving their beard, but also taking care of underarm and pubic hair. Yes, I just said that.

Some men make jokes when women don't shave their legs or underarms for a couple weeks in the winter. But do men realize how unattractive a bushy underarm with deodorant balls can be? Every time I see all that hair, I just wonder if the deodorant is actually making it to the skin. Can the deodorant actually work if it is just sitting in the hair?

Secondly, I like when a guy takes care of the hair down there. For me its a matter of hygiene. It makes for a much better experience when going down. Hair holds smells and sweat. Shaving really cuts down on that. And it doesn't need to be completely shaven clean, but neat hair of a bushy mess is always helpful.

Finally, for many guys, shaving down there will actually make it look bigger. This really doesn’t mean much for women, but it gives many men a huge ego boost. I was talking to a good guy friend and we were talking about manscaping. He said he noticed that all the guys in porns were shaving and was wondering if he should do the same. Of course I encouraged it. I’ve been lucky enough that most men I’ve dated did their manscaping. A couple weeks later he called me. He said that first he tried cutting the hair with scissors, but but almost cut himself. He then grabbed his clippers and took care of the rest. You should’ve heard the excitement in his voice. He actually called me to say, “it looks so huge now!”

I know that I truly appreciate manscaping, however what do you do when you are dating someone that doesn’t do it? I’ve been with this guy for over three months now and I’m not quite sure how to bring it up. I’ve never had to before, because all the guys I dated just naturally did it. The odd thing, is that he actually shaves his chest hair, so I know there are clippers around! How do I bring it up gently so that he takes care of his underarms and other area?

Married Guy, Finding Out

So me and married guy had been dating for about seven months. Things were good. We went and had fun. He spent the night at my house and I spent the night at his a few times. We spoke on the phone, both house and cell, at all times of the night. I was really falling in love with this guy. He was sweet and attentive. We had a lot in common, despite the 14 year age difference. And we had a lot of fun when we went out. Plus the sex was awesome. I was young, so of course I was being introduced to things I had never done before.

I knew that dating a married man was wrong,
but what happens when you think you're in love?

A few months after we began dating, I quit my job and was looking for another one, but I still hadn't finished college, so my experience was limited to some time I spent as an office assistant then sales person. Married guy was a recruiter, and soon began helping me with my resume and lining up job interviews for me. After a really great interview with an auto supplier, I decided to meet him at his office for lunch.

Married Guy, The Meeting

A lot of women have gotten involved with a married guy. I've learned it doesn't matter your social status, age or even location. Why it happens may be for a variety of reasons, but here's my story of the married guy that was the center of my world for way too much of my life. And here's the story on how we meet....

Stuck in Time

I think everyone has something that an ex has gave them. Perhaps its a small memento like a card or photo. Or maybe it was a nice purse, watch or other expensive gift. But if the person is an ex, why are you holding on the item. Is it because of what it costs or what it signifies?

Is Age Just a Number?

I recently turned 32 and I was fine with it, for about a week. Then I realized, that I am not where I intended my life being. Thought I would be married, or at least have some prospects, and soon be having kids. My career is finally on the correct path, and I have a beautiful home, but my personal life has been in shambles.

Most of the men my age are married, or getting their first divorce and very bitter. I don't know when I was supposed to go out and meet a guy. I spent years working day jobs and going to college at night, so my college was much different than most. There were no guys to meet there. And the ones that I did meet have moved out of state or are married.

When Least Expected

I've always heard that saying, it will come when you least expect it. I've been trying to believe that for a few years now. If I stop looking for a relationship, one will eventually come to me. So I stopped looking, or did I? Have I always really gone to events wondering how many single guys were there or who the cute guy at the bar may have come with. Perhaps I've spent time when I was out complaining to friends that there are no single guys here and its becoming frustrating. 

Work Hour to Happy Hour

Working in PR and events, I often have to go out right after work. I also find meeting a guy for drinks after work less intimidating than meeting for dinner. Have you ever found that if you go home after work, that you may not get back out the house? This happens to me all the time.

I often carry my makeup bag and some cute shoes in my car. I don't wear makeup at work often (there are no guys here to impress, lol). So just throwing on some eyeliner makes me look great. If I'm really trying to make an impression, I may even put in my contacts.

My go to for going out after work is to wear some black pants and find a cute shirt to bring with me to work. But here are some great tips from the professionals on what you can do to go from Work Hour to Happy Hour.

Wordless Wednesday: Alex Rios

It's time for our Boys of Summer. I will always be a Tigers fan, but they always seem to trade the really hot players. But there are a lot of hot guys in baseball. So for the next few weeks, I'll be showing you hot men from a pretty slow sport.

Below is Alex Rios, outfielder for Chicago White Sox, born in 1981 and makes him a pretty good age for me. But if he is still single is up for debate. Either way, he's nice to look at:

Must be an MLB thing, but I can't find any baseball players without their shirts on. Not even footage in the lockerroom.

Wordless Wednesday: Adam Levine

I've had a crush on Adam Levine since the first time I saw Maroon 5. He's hot and it's not just because of his body. He has this type of confidence that makes you want to jump him right there. Plus he can sing and he has dimples. I kinda have a thing for dimples.

 

 

Petty Women

Sometimes I really hate dealing with women. And not to be racist, this is my opinion and I happen to be one, but black women are especially difficult to deal with. There is often this cattiness that I just don't understand. I don't have a lot of girl friends. I have a couple of close ones that I've known since junior high. And the relationship with one of them seems to be growing apart as we get older. The other one, is my role dog, even if she has kids and man now.

I've been hanging out with a lot more people that I went to college with and having some fun times, but these aren't usually black women. A lot of friends are also getting married and having kids and it becomes hard to have a fun friendship with someone that never has time for you any more. But, that's neither hear nor there. This post is about this chick I had the pleasure of not slapping the other day.

Laws of Attraction

Everyone one has a type that they find attractive. Sometimes that type changes over time or you go phases. For awhile, most of the guys I dated were tall, dark skinned, muscular with a shaved head. There was usually a motorcycle involved too, but that's another story for another post.

As of lately, I really don't know what my type of guy is. I'm not gravitating towards one particular look or type of guy. I've even started dating more white, hispanic and middle eastern guys. I've spent years dating only black men. Luckily black men come in all different shades so you could end up with one as dark and fine as Idris Elba or the other side spectrum like Jesse Williams. But that is a beauty of black men, there are so many different shades and types.

So what if you aren't physically attracted to someone right away? I've said before that someone has grown on me, but that usually meant their personality or some other quirk they have. As I have gotten older I realize that I don't want someone's personality to grow on me. I want someone that I click with right away.

Wordless Wednesday: Idris Elba

This guy is hot and his English accent just makes him even more irresistible. He reminds me of a guy I dated for a few years, which is probably why I think he's so hot. I love the fact that he can rock a suit or beanie hat and look good either way.

 

Update: Planned Parenthood & Komen Foundation

Update: Planned Parent & Komen Foundation <– Click the link to see the full story on CNN.com

Through a lot of pressure, it took only a few days for the Susan G. Komen Foundation to back pedal and restore funding to Planned Parenthood. In fact, Planned Parenthood was able to raise more money because of their pulled grants. Over $400,000 was donated on their online website and New York Mayor Michael Bloomberg pledged to match donations up to $250,000.

Tweets, Facebook and blogs (mine included) were up in arms about the pulling of funds from Planned Parenthood because they weren’t pro-life. I’m happy that they saw the pressure and everyone that was getting behind Planned Parenthood. I will be making a donation at my next appointment.

Planned Parenthood is Necessary

I have been a patient of Planned Parenthood, and not for an abortion as most would suspect. I am a young, single woman that is above income limits to qualify for subsidized health insurance. But Planned Parenthood offers health services for women. They even have better office hours than most doctors.

I was totally upset to hear about Susan G. Komen deciding to pull some of their monetary support from Planned Parenthood. The organization sees thousands of women every year that don’t have any other place to go.

Ban this, but not That?

I’m really confused by BET and Viacom’s recent banning of the Nicki Minaj song, Stupid Hoe. Now I’m not a fan of rap and really hate things that put down women. But what I don’t like is why this song is banned. They claim it to be too explicit. However, over the years men have been able to put much more explicit videos on the air.

Check out Nicki’s Video:

I don’t really care for the song, but I didn’t see anything much more explicit than you see in men’s rap videos. I did think I was going to have a seizure with all the flashing, but because of the quick flashes you weren’t really given a chance to see her ass.


This video, all seven minutes of it, features tons of scantily clad women, simulated sex acts and women with no clothes that had to be blurred out.
So after watching these videos, is it sexist that Viacom bans Nicki Minaj, but they fully supported Tip Drill and even produced the Ludacris video “Pussy Poppin”?

Facebook Confirmation

If you chose to put your information out on the web for anyone to see, I don’t think what I’m doing is stalking. I consider it more to be confirming facts. People can’t tell a whole lot of lies on facebook because they will quickly get called out. A lot of people are also very open, and even if you aren’t, someone on your friend list is bound to be.

First off, Facebook privacy is very ready to navigate. You can hide certain posts or pictures from friends. You can also change how your wall is viewed. If it’s not a friend, shut the wall down. Also hide your friends posts from outside people if you make public status updates. Its your friends that are most likely to give hints up on YOUR life.

Old College Try

Have you ever looked back in your dating life and wondered why you and a person didn’t work out? You are drawing blanks trying to remember what happened...

During college, I dated this guy Mike. We only went out a few times, but of course ended up having sex. Me, not being completely over my ex, of course sabotaged what ever relationship we could have had. Of course he remembers the exchange differently than I do. I guess I ended up cussing him out (this happens frequently, so I don’t remember, lol).

We remained friends through everything. And when we graduated, he came to my graduation party where we partied throughout the night. The guy that I was dating was there, but I was having more fun with Mike. He was always cute, and had the deepest dimples when he smiled.

Warning, this post is long!

Singing Saturday - Would You Mind

If you ask any guy these questions, I'm pretty sure he wouldn't mind. Especially when Janet Jackson is asking the question.

This song should definitely be on your playlist of songs to have sex to. Take a look at the lyrics and let me know what you think.